Yesterday was a day of rain and the wind was blowing strongly, and it was as if we were trying to clear the bad energy of confusion and criticism going on now.
Entertainers and celebrities go out into the media, so depending on how they say things, the general public may be manipulated and get influenced.
It’s better not to swallow what they are saying as it is.
For example, Piers M denied totally what Meghan said as depressed, suicidal and discriminated. He stepped down and she sued him.
”I don’t believe what she says at all.”
In the newspaper, it was closed up as a reverse grudge of love as he didn’t receive phone calls from her after he dated her. Due to this, his claim of her insult to the Monarchy was not focused on, but he received over 4000 compliments as he needed to be more compassionate to people with depression. However, when I look at the comments on the BBC news, there are quite a few people who are sceptical and unreliable about Megan’s personality and what she claimed, like he said.
A big mistake of Piers was
He didn’t explain well with a fact or a reason why he does not believe her but walked off with anger.
He needed to control his emotions and should have thought about his delivery and consequences. He should have quoted what clinical depression is xxxx, and she should not use it as one card, for example, and explains his view properly why.
Meghan said she was suicidal and depressed but she had to do all the engagements. If that was the case, it shoud be very tough for her, left alone, no support she was not receiving, away from the US home, different culture, different class, different role, etc.
In Japan, for example, current empress Masako suffered from depression and certainly couldn’t do official duties for more than two years, and there was a time when she couldn’t do anything about public engagements. I’m glad she is well now and does all the engagements with the proper Royal protocols. That is a real depression.
I don’t know how serious Meghans’ case was but she should see a doctor if she is depressed or is suffering from any other mental illness if she claims she was suicidal.
Clinically, a doctor gives a diagnosis as depression if a person has more than 5 specific symptoms over 2 weeks including, withdrawing from activities, meeting people, etc. I wonder whether that was her case or not. If she does, she needs to see a doctor.
There are so many different symptoms and ab-reactions in mental illness, and when I was studying in the Psychotheraoy course, I was like
”Eh, this symptom is a reaction that xxx always does, isn’t it?”
Even without a doctor’s diagnosis, mental illness can be found in a day to day communication and relationships such as, just as an example,
- There’s a hyped emotional reaction which is unexpected
- Heat up emotionally quickly
- There’s violence.
- Even if you plan something with someone, his/her mind and body are unstable, so they cancel last minute or do not reply you back.
- Blame you intensively but they don’t take accountability on their behaviours.
- They criticize and manipulate skillfully to make you feel guilty.
- They withdraw from activities
From my personal experience, even if there is no diagnosis of a mental illness such as depression, there are quite a few people who seem to have symptoms and act out, so be especially careful when making negative remarks for the other party.
In the UK, it is said 1 out 4 people experience depression in their life, so it is quite high.
Both British and Japanese cultures are similar in a way, so if you communicate very straightforward like many Americans do such as
You’re like this, I hate you, I don’t like it! etc.
It is better to be prepared to be labelled and removed from your peers. Many Britons and also Japanese don’t like it and keep you away without saying anything. It is regarded as rude, with no respect, no sensitivity, especially if communicating a negative view in many cases, especially in a personal relationship. Work-wise, different story.
Now, what and how would you tell when you need to express a negative opinion to the other person?
When I worked for the American company, it was the hardest company ever in my career as politics were everywhere which I disliked.
You cannot just say to your boss like
xxx trouble happened. What should I do?
They will tell you, think about solutions and come back.
If you just ignore and don’t report problems to your boss, again, you would be blamed as to why didn’t you report it.
So at the work situation, you need always
– give facts and references in direct manners as possible.
are necessary to your boss and make it transparent. BUT don’t accuse your boss publicly or your seniors as they may revenge you.
If it is a personal situation, it can be tricky so you need to see other peoples’ personalities too.
When people have a problem and have to communicate it to others, there are patterns you can see.
- They tell you openly and straightforward
- They know it but don’t want to face it, so avoid it and don’t respond to anything
- They blame people for xx
- They respond, face it timely and focus on what needs to be done
- Gossip people
- They think about their situation and change the content to convey it
- They don’t respond until the last minute
- They think about future counter-measures and crisis counter-measures
- Make a statement or rant about the other person’s personality or behaviour
And so on.
Now, how do you tell your negative opinion or comment to others?
Now we are in the Air era, communication is very important. You can learn how to communicate to build good relationships, not to destroy relationships.
How would you build a good relationship?
If interested in, you can learn via the Mind Revolution course.
Thank you for reading.